A Picnic on Common Ground
My husband and I are hosting a barbecue tomorrow for New Jersey families who have adopted children from the same adoption agency in Texas. At least 12 families are expected to come.
It's been strange planning a party for people I have never met. I have e-mailed and chatted on the telephone with a few of them, but I don't really know them. I'm not worried, though.
We have so much in common that I'm sure we won't be short on words. It'll be comforting, I think, to spend an afternoon with people who have made the same leap of faith and took the same emotional and financial gamble. These are parents who know what it's like to have friends, family and strangers make thoughtless remarks or ask how much you "paid" for your child.
(Please don't ask us about the costs unless you're planning to adopt and need to know how much to save. It's not something most of us like to dwell on.)
I am looking forward to having all the little longhorns at my house. I want Hendrick to get to know these children and make friends with them over the years. It's important that he spends time with kids who also don't share biological ties with their families so our situation doesn't seem so unusual.
At least, I think it's important. Now. While we're still adjusting to the novelty of having a baby that someone else delivered.
Maybe Hendrick won't ever care that he's adopted. Maybe it won't be an issue for him. Or maybe it will. So, just in case, I want to keep these families around.
Maybe I'll be the one who needs them for moral support some day.
It's been strange planning a party for people I have never met. I have e-mailed and chatted on the telephone with a few of them, but I don't really know them. I'm not worried, though.
We have so much in common that I'm sure we won't be short on words. It'll be comforting, I think, to spend an afternoon with people who have made the same leap of faith and took the same emotional and financial gamble. These are parents who know what it's like to have friends, family and strangers make thoughtless remarks or ask how much you "paid" for your child.
(Please don't ask us about the costs unless you're planning to adopt and need to know how much to save. It's not something most of us like to dwell on.)
I am looking forward to having all the little longhorns at my house. I want Hendrick to get to know these children and make friends with them over the years. It's important that he spends time with kids who also don't share biological ties with their families so our situation doesn't seem so unusual.
At least, I think it's important. Now. While we're still adjusting to the novelty of having a baby that someone else delivered.
Maybe Hendrick won't ever care that he's adopted. Maybe it won't be an issue for him. Or maybe it will. So, just in case, I want to keep these families around.
Maybe I'll be the one who needs them for moral support some day.
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Hi my name is Jaci and I am a mom of 3 girls. I am also adopted. I love and repsect all adopted moms not just because I am one but also because I know what families in that situation go through. Thank-you for being so loving and just remember no matter what... you love them and they love you and that is the only tie that matters. Please feel free to ask me anything... I think it help to talk to people who might and can understand.
-Nuozak4@aol.com
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